First, I owe you an apology. I have been unfair to you lately, because I have let you only see my dark side for so long. Maybe because it is my truer side?
Anyway, life is so unpredictable, right? You don't always get what you want, when you want, or how you want it. It comes in other forms. It takes you by surprise, and it is up to you if you are ready or not; ready to make the best out of the given opportunity. Like lemonades out of lemons, it's not necessary that you get lemons, you might get apples, then you should know how to make an apple pie, with cinnamon maybe! :)
See, you never know what would happen. You plan, you assume, and you predict, and then a totally different plan happens. God's plan for you. Whether you like it or not, you have to accept that it is the best plan that could ever happen. It doesn't matter if you understand the plan or not, probably you won't. You got to have faith in God, that someday you will understand. That is not easy.
Because, you can wait for one day, one week, one month, or only one year to understand. You always count the days. You count the events that happen to you. And you keep wondering is that it? Is it over? Shouldn't I get an answer by now? Haven't I been believing for so long that miracles should start to appear? But, then again, you got to be more patient and more believing. And you give time some more time. But that is a loop that never ends.
Maybe you should think of another technique. You shouldn't have waited for miracles to happen in the first place. You should have taken your chances and made the best out of them; lemonades and apple pies! So you plan differently, according to the givens, you assume, and you predict. And then your plans fail you, or you fail them! God still has a different plan for you, which you do really believe it is a better plan. You are back to the start.
Okay, so I guess you shouldn't have made any lemonades or pies, you should have liked the lemons and apples as they are. You should have accepted your fate. That way you wouldn't plan, assume, or predict. That way you would live the life chosen for you submissively. You get lemons, you enjoy them as they are. You get apples, you try not to make pies out of them. Apples are healthier, anyway. But, is it right to stop aspiring better situations? Shouldn't we be enhancing ourselves, our lives, and our plans? Should we settle? Or should we fight for more?
The answer is both. You should do both. You should enjoy the lemons as they are, and then you should make some lemonades. Learn to love eating apples, without any modifications, and then learn how to make apple pies, for a nice treat from time to time.
Accept your fate, and aspire for more. Do both. That way you will have plans that tell you what you really want in life, and then you will learn how to live and fight your way through the different unpredictable plans you get. In an advanced level, you will learn how to adjust your own plans to fit the given situations. See? Apple pies out of apples.
That might be the hardest strategy to achieve. The balance is really hard; to be submissive and ambitious at the same time. It might be hard to apply, but it's not hard to believe. It's the only logical way out.
Best of luck. :)